It’s not your willpower
Let's talk about willpower. Willpower is another lie that perfectionism tells us. "If you really cared about it you'd power through! Toughen up! Figure it out!" Bullshit. Not taking action is not a direct result of your lack of caring about a subject. Sometimes you...
Easing the tension
I came back to some great feedback from you on your #1 single biggest challenge, problem, or frustration reforming perfectionism while navigating the pandemic recovery. Some highlights include: "Feeling that others have it under control and I am falling behind in...
How to get your mojo back after Loss of Heart
The theme of why laziness is a lie is creating a lot of rich discussions so if you have been following along, thanks for being a part of this. If you are new here, welcome! Thanks for joining us. We're exploring Pema Chödrön's model that observes three states...
You’re not lazy, you’re just seeking comfort.
My post on why laziness is a lie created lot of buzz in my inbox. Most of you embraced Pema Chödrön's model that observes three states underneath what we label as laziness - Seeking Comfort, Loss of Heart, and Couldn't Care Less. Most of you understood how being...
You can’t be lazy. Laziness does not exist.
Laziness isn’t real. It’s the symptom of an unmet need. What can you do to get that need met in a small and doable way?
Compassion: The only thing that will save the world.
Your fortitude and compassion are inextricably linked. Where you can show yourself compassion, there you will also find your strength.
When you want to be somewhere other than where you are
Have you ever had that untethered feeling where you don't quite feel like you are anchored to a point? Where you are a bit adrift, like you've let go of the dock and started swimming out into the water but you can't see the other shore yet? There's a word for that....
Will you keep all your feathers?
Can you relate to the Crane Wife? The struggle for getting your needs met without being needy?
What can your positive thinking learn from a pothole?
Positive thinking and positive mindset is ineffective for real change. So what does work? You have to ask the right questions.
Think you’re good at multitasking? Think again.
Maureen Sullivan, the COO of Rent the Runway, describes herself as "excelling at 'context-switching' -- rapid toggling from task to task." Ok Maureen I'm gonna have to stop you right there - there is not such thing as "excelling" at context switching. That's not how...
Make your lists work for you, not against you.
Lists get a bad rap because they are usually used to create a big line of to-do’s. Then we rush to check off each to-do quicker than they get added on. The conversation at the end of the day often sounds like: Q: “How was your day?” A: “Not bad, but I didn’t get...
You’re not a failure. You’re just doing it right.
Seeing the word failure, typing it, saying it, just thinking about it, is enough to make a person queasy. F.A.I.L.U.R.E. I've been told that the more you are exposed to it you eventually get used to it. Maybe. I'm still having a tough time with that theory. What...
Stressed out? Two easy ways to knock it off.
The number one "how to" search in Google in 2015 was "how to get rid of stress." I can certainly relate to that question as its something I've Googled myself many times (ha, maybe I was the one that tipped the scales). I define "stress" as a state that develops when...